Grief for a companion is real. You're not alone — and there's no wrong way to feel.
Losing a pet is losing a family member. They were there for the quiet mornings, the walks in the rain, the hard days, and the best days. The grief you feel is real and valid — don't let anyone tell you "it was just a pet."
Grief doesn't follow a timetable. Some days you'll feel okay. Other days you'll be blindsided by a collar you forgot to put away, or the sound of paws you still expect to hear. All of it is normal. All of it is okay.
Set aside a corner of your garden or home — a photo, a favourite toy, a candle. Somewhere you can sit and remember them. It doesn't need to be elaborate. It just needs to be yours.
Write a letter. Tell them what they meant to you, the things you'll miss, the moments you'll keep. You don't have to show anyone. It's between you and them.
Share stories with family, friends, or someone who knew them. Say their name. Laugh about the silly things they did. Talking keeps them present.
A tree, a rose bush, a patch of wildflowers. Something that grows and blooms — a living memorial that changes with the seasons, just like they did.
Many families find comfort in donating to an animal charity in their companion's name. Local rescues like Newcastle Dog and Cat Shelter or Pawz for Thought always appreciate support.
If you have children, be honest with them — in age-appropriate language. Avoid phrases like "went to sleep" or "went away," which can create confusion and fear. Instead, explain simply: "Their body stopped working and they died. It's very sad, and it's okay to cry."
Let children participate in saying goodbye if they want to — drawing a picture, choosing a flower, writing a note. Give them the choice. Some children process grief through doing.
If your grief is interfering with daily life — you can't eat, sleep, work, or function — please reach out for professional support. There's no shame in needing help. Pet loss is real loss, and trained counsellors understand that.
Blue Cross Pet Bereavement Support
Free, confidential phone and email support from trained volunteers.
0800 096 6606 | bluecross.org.uk/pet-bereavement
PDSA Pet Bereavement Support
Free helpline for anyone grieving the loss of a pet.
0800 023 4546 | pdsa.org.uk/pet-bereavement
Cruse Bereavement Care
National bereavement charity — while primarily for human loss, many Cruse volunteers understand pet loss and will listen without judgment.
0808 808 1677 | cruse.org.uk
Samaritans
If you're feeling desperate or overwhelmed, Samaritans are available 24/7 to listen — about anything, including pet loss.
116 123 (free) | samaritans.org
And of course, you can always call us. We've been through this ourselves — we're happy to listen, even if you're not arranging a cremation. Get in touch anytime.